There may be times in life where you are faced with a decision that not only affects you but others too…
These decisions are far more difficult than those that affect us directly.
Our loved ones around us are very precious, often we make choices / decisions that put their needs before our own – but this feels okay – as the love we have for them tips the balance of the love we have for ourselves. It is easy and just ‘feels right’ to do what is right for them, regardless of how difficult it might be for us.
But sometimes, the decision we are forced to make is far more difficult – which ever path we choose has significant effects on the loved ones involved. The burden can feel overwhelming, the fear of making the wrong decision and feeling regret, is massively present, and what makes the decision making so tough.
Ask for Divine Guidance
At times such as these I look to Divine Guidance and call in support from Spirit. Finding a quiet space in which I can centre myself and sending out love and positive intention to the world, I can openly ask for help and guidance, I can ask for a calmness within and a sense of knowing that ‘what is meant to be – will be’.
Guidance Will Always be Given
Calling in Spirit help/guidance is something we can do anytime… then we can relax, trusting that the way will be shown – it may not be as direct as,, just waking up one morning and knowing exactly what to do, it may be that we subtly begin to lean a certain way or that someone involved does… or it may even be that we make a decision, and just ‘trust’ that it is the right one…
When we do this, we can loosen the chains of regret and guilt – knowing our decision was made with love, regardless of how others perceive the choice that has been made.
Be strong and have faith that Spirit will guide you through your most challenging times…
Thank you for this article it helped me immensely. My brother was given a year to live and there was only me and my family who bothered with him, he was in and out of hsp that last year and even though he was in contact with them they still never bothered with him. Not long before he passed over towards the end of the year he asked me not to notify them when he died, he said they haven’t bothered with me while I am alive I dont want their crocodile tears when I die…When he passed I found it really a hard thing to do, but I had discussions with my family and it was decided to carry out his wishes. he was buried just before Christmas, I kept his mobile on all over the holiday period but not one of them rang to see how he was or where he was spending Christmas (he was single with no family) I duly wrote to them and told them what had happened and why I hadnt told them before. The abuse I received from them was disgusting, I tried to make them see this was my brothers decision i just carried it out and if they had been that interested in his well being they would have been to visit him through what was a very difficult year and they like me would have known he had died…. but always there was just a slight did I do the right thing? but reading your article I know that I did…I know I always did the best for my brother, I know how upset he was with them, this is what he wanted. My occasional guilt has been truly lifted.. Thank you
You should not feel guilt. Others are so ready to criticize what you have or have not done but where were they when you needed them?My mother died before Xmas. It was a shock I am still dealing with. I nursed her for 4 months. The criticism I received from family members was something I would not wish on anyone To this day, we are no longer a family or talking to one another.